So the old college roommate has finally settled down and he wants his friends by his side as he goes from bachelor to old married man. Show support by following some simple suggestions for having his back.
Look the other way. Yes, those are tears in his eyes. He is getting married; of course he is crying. At any other time coming up with nicknames like sprinkler would be appropriate. Not so much now. Instead, just look ahead and think solemn thoughts.
Rent the tux. Okay, so the idea of giving clothes back is a foreign concept. But the last thing the groom needs is a divo. Line up, get measured, and fork over the cash.Buy the tights for a Romeo and Juliet wedding, or those gingham handkerchiefs for a hoedown show down.
Mind your manners. The groom is desperate to make a good impression in front of unforgiving in-laws. Don’t confuse his reception dinner with a Super Bowl party. Use a napkin, chew with a closed mouth, and wear those dress pants from last year’s job interview.
Dance. Nothing is worse than a room full of women standing up against the walls in dresses they will only wear once. The job of a groomsmen is making sure that the groom does not have to get the party started. So the perfect groomsmen to ask all the wallflowers to dance and make sure every cousin makes it to the floor at least once.
Speak up. The groom is confused by the whirlwind of lace and silk and flowers and napkins. Now is not the time to hide that college elective course on fabrics and floral arrangements. Knowledge is power; help a brother out.
Be quiet. He’s surrounded by a cacophony of women voices and the groom is doing his best to put his communicative foot forward. Reward him with a night of Neanderthal grunts, wings and channel flipping.
Be sentimental. It might be awkward but all those stories from the bachelor days are the perfect conversation leading up to the wedding. Do not bring up what might have been scenarios that will defeat the purpose. Stick with the best fishing trip ever or that crazy cross-country road trip in search of the perfect west coast wave. No need to get all mushy; just remind the groom why he is the man he is.
Make other plans. Those all day golf rounds are history. He might have been the one up for anything, but give him some time to perfect the role of husband and partner. That will take time, which means less time for the boys club.
Call. Marriage is not the ending of a friendship. Let him know he is still one of the guys by offering to hold the World Series party at his house. Just bring a dish or two.
Adrienne Wilson - Adrienne Wilson is the youngest of three daughters which makes aspirations to write a natural byproduct of her environment. She works as a ...
